The Love Month

February is commercially the month of love. Of course, love is everyday, we don’t need one day to celebrate, but hey, I guess it is nice! Thing is, if you’re single and don’t want to be, or out of a relationship, or lost someone, it’s yet another reminder you don’t need and it can bring out the sceptic, the cynic or the melancholic in us.  For others, the love month is a time to really acknowledge someone special. Of course you can ignore all that and just get on with your day!

I could, as I coach on relationships, write a piece about romantic love, do’s and don’t of dating, attraction etc, but I’m going to write about love from a different perspective.

The love for your parents.

As you are reading this blog, I’m guessing you must be around 40, so your parents could be in their sixties or older. That is, if you’re fortunate enough to have both parents around. Both mine are, thankfully, and of course, we had our challenges; for me it was mostly in my 20s to mid 30s (late rebel!!). My mum gave us a scare yesterday (she is ok, thankfully) and I just felt motivated to write about gratitude and love for our parents.

The thing is, as we absorb ourselves in what we are doing and get on with our own lives, our parents are getting on with theirs and 20-30 years also passes for them too.

Gradually you notice they get more frail, are not as physically active as before and probably have some health issues. I just wanted to write this as a shout out the the older people in our life.

It is one reason why I’m so passionate about coaching this particular phase of life. It’s a pivotal time as you may have to attend to their needs, hence self care is even more important. It is also a reminder to take care of your own health, diet, sugar and hormone levels, blood pressure etc and get out and enjoy yourself, laugh, dance, play, make love and energise your body and your brain. As a health coach, we talk through issues around your health concerns and how other areas of your emotional life may be affecting and impacting your physical health.

Things have changed massively in the information available to us today, on health especially and we have chances and opportunities and knowledge our parents didn’t really have access to. If they are grumpy, just put it down to the medication… So reach out to an older person in your life, spend time with them, distraction free and tell them, show them, you love and care for them and they are valued by you.

Sending you love 🙂

To your goodness and your gorgeousness,

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  1. Such a beautiful post Farrah!! I agree that it is SO important to appreciate our parents while they’re here AND for who they are. When I was 20 my mother and my best friend were both diagnosed with cancer. Different cancers, but cancer nonetheless. They went through chemo together and I eventually lost my best friend, but my mom survived. That was a HUGE wake up call for me. From then on I consciously showered my mom and my dad with appreciation. (they may argue too much haha) But I adore them and am grateful that we’re close and still have time together. Thank you for this!

    • Hi Susan, thanks for replying and I’m sorry to hear what you went through 🙁 Yep, appreciating our parents, (even if they don’t quite get what we do!) can often be overlooked when we are busy with our own lives. Lovely to hear how your relationship is!

  2. Farah, thank you so much for posting this beautiful entry this week. So true. Those of us who still have our parents around, really should not take it for granted they are here and in our lives. I think about this all the time, as both my parents are getting older (nearing 70) and I am starting to see the “aging” process on them. Not so much physically, but more with their mental acuity. I find myself being more patient with them and not taking them for granted. <3

    • Hello Tania and thanks for replying. It is important they maintain some sort of activity, not only physical but something that engages the brain. My dad in 80 this year and loves a game of chess and mummy actually published her first book of poetry and had a launch party last year!:) We fortunately live fairly close by so see them nearly everyday as their physical health causes worry. Much love to you and your parents x

  3. Awww…what a sweet post, Farah! I’m going to pick up the phone and call my Nana right this very minute. 🙂 ♥

  4. beautiful post, farah. i am definitely in the midst of this season of life. my beloved best-friend-mom passed away almost 12 years ago. she fought a valiant fight against cancer, and was just as brave in death as she was in life. i learned so very much from her and still miss her every single day. my family and i currently spend several months per year living close to my dad. he has had his ups and downs in the past 3 years, and it’s always a tug-of-war for me. knowing when to assist/take care of him and when to hold back so he can maintain some independence – different week-to-week, day-to-day. but the love between us remains constant.

    • p.s. i’m glad your mum is okay!

    • April, thank you for replying, and I hear you! My Dad is 80 this year and still drives, just to the local shops and has always been independent, but we know there is only so much he should be doing as his health is up and down too. Take care of yourself in all this, it is really important to do the things which lift you 🙂

  5. Great post. My mom passed away 13+ years ago, my stepdad almost 4 years ago. My dad just turned 80 and his wife is 62. The two of them live a pretty healthy life, from what I can tell, and they have fun, which is so good to know. My dad reached out to me last month to kind of reconnect, wants me to come visit, will even pay for the trip… I know that’s his way of gently letting me know he wants us to have some time together at this stage in his life. I’m going to be working to make it happen. Thanks!

    • Hey Bonnie! Thank you for sharing 🙂 Having fun and living a healthy life is wayyy better than not, that’s for sure! Aww, enjoy your time with your dad, precious. lots of love x

  6. So true Farah. I remember when my mother was ill. She died 10 years ago. I came in to her room and found her talking quite flambounantly with a new doctor that came to check on her jun her hospital room that I had asked for. The doc was in her 60’s… wild frame glasses, dressed in a funky earthy Montreal fashion. It was unusual for a doctor to just sit there and let my mom talk. Afterwards, we talked, and among the many wisdoms she (the doctor) said to me was … “Sometime you just have to let them talk. They have a lot to say and a lot to express. It’s important.” We talked a long time. I still remember her taking the time to ‘love’ my Mom at a time, when she didn’t really have to. My mother died about 3 weeks later. And here I am, talking of this woman…many years later… I know she helped my mom… but in that action, she helped me too. It was so nice to se her being loved and feeling important.

    Beautiful post…

    • Hey Elizabeth, I can really visualise your story 🙂 And it is important, the Doc was right, “to let them talk…they have a lot to express…It’s important”. I’m really happy this post touched you, and in turn your comments mean a lot to me too. Thank you xxx

  7. This post made me think of my parents. My fathers has been gone since 1992 and my Mom died 10 years ago. In caring for them, I really grew to appreciate them in a different way . . . and your post tonight made me remember those times with much fondness. I think when I turn in tonight, I will say a little prayer and care for their souls and mine … thank you xooxxo

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